Meditate on something that makes you feel good – a beautiful flower perhaps, a gentle breeze in your face, a favorite piece of music. Exclude all other thoughts. Just enjoy the moment.
• Get physical. Nothing strenuous. Try walking, yoga or tai chi.
• Positive affirmations. Create some short phrases that you want to apply to yourself. Things like, “I love and approve of myself,” “I am too big a gift to the world to waste my time on self-pity and sadness,” I release my anger so I can see clearly.” Whatever you do, be careful not to include negatives in your phrases. For instance, instead of “I don’t have guilt,” say, “I am free of guilt.” Repeat your phrases to yourself as soon as you get up in the morning, before going to sleep and any time you feel you need them during the day.
• Clear the clutter in your life. This can help clear the clutter in your mind. If the disorganization in the kitchen has been bugging you, then organize it. If you owe people phone calls, letters, lunch dates – deal with it.
• Settle unresolved issues. Does it still bug you that your sister let you down 10 years ago? Then tell her. The outcome may not be the stuff of fairy tails, but then again it might. At least it will be off your mind and you can forgive and go forward.
• Speak your mind. Don’t argue; there’s no need to be nasty. But if someone did wrong then say so. If that person then gets belligerent and defensive, that’s their problem, not yours.
• Be honest with people you love. Holding in your feelings creates stress so share what you feel.
• Make a list of all the things that are bothering you, then burn the list and let go.
• Love yourself. Accept that while you’re not perfect (no-one is) you are still a beautiful person.