The Game of Desire

. Esther Perel does an incredible talk on the difficulties of balancing these dichotomies in her must-watch TED Talk speech, “The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship

“one key pattern associated with the development of a close relationship among peers is sustained, escalating, reciprocal, personal self-disclosure.”1

Smiling, walking by them slowly, staying on the outside of a group—oh, and thinking sexy thoughts,”

“What do you mean by ‘approachable’ again?” asked Pricilla.

“Making eye contact three times and pointing your pelvis toward someone,”

Methods of Persuasion by Nick Kolenda and Influence: Science and Practice by Robert Cialdini.

first rule of flirting is to never make your actions seem disingenuous—and nothing screams phony more than a step-by-step guide.

flirting needs two things to thrive: confidence and mystery.”

The Science of Happily Ever After, by Dr. Ty Tashiro.

This is the yum vs. yuck approach. For example, if someone is not a killer kisser you can say, Yuck, can you stop opening your mouth so wide because you’re dripping saliva everywhere. Or you can say, Yum, I love it when you kiss me with your lips slightly parted because it gives me just enough of you, while leaving me wanting more.

book Words Can Change Your Brain, by Andrew Newberg, M.D. and Mark Robert