John Karter

Introducing Psychology of Relationships

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    One of the oldest human needs is having someone to wonder where you are when you don’t come home at night.
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    Only you can heal yourself
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    people bring needs into their relationships that have not been communicated to the other person. This in turn conjures up unspoken expectations of their partner, and assumptions about the relationship itself and how it is going to be, a situation that provides an instant recipe for conflict
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    Forget the idea of finding one person who will complete you.
    • Being passionate about someone means more than having sex.
    • Accepting someone with all their faults is the key to loving them.
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    To know someone fully and deeply, to understand their emotional make-up, and their positive attributes, as well as their foibles and fears, usually takes years.
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    only person who can complete you is yourself. Nobody else, no matter how loving, understanding or caring they are, can fill the emotional void inside you,
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    affection, respect and validation
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    success in relationships almost invariably correlates with the amount of sustained attention, effort and, occasionally, self-sacrifice that each partner is prepared to bring to it.
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    the more you put into relationships, both in terms of effort and understanding, the more you get out of them.
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    When couples are suddenly able to see what lies beneath their ‘locked-in’ behaviour patterns it can mark a turning point in their relationship.
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    Most of us are so focused on what we expect to get, based on romantic ideals, cultural norms and media propaganda, that the qualities, standards, values and emotional input we actually need to be happy and fulfilled within a relationship are ignored
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    Like so many things in life, the index of success in relationships almost invariably correlates with the amount of sustained attention, effort and, occasionally, self-sacrifice that each partner is prepared to bring to it.
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    However, when we buy into the widespread idea that harmony and mutual fulfilment happen automatically as a result of meeting the ‘right’ person, an important factor is missed, or dismissed. Meaningful, lasting relationships are incredibly complex, multi-faceted psychological structures that are not built in a day and do not happen purely by accident
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    How many of those needs have been met either in full or in part?
    • How many of them have not been met at all?
    • During the course of the relationship, have you recognized new needs and/or discarded some of the original ones?
    • What do you think your partner’s needs were/are? Do you think he/she feels those needs have been met?
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    The more you are able to gain insight into the hidden agendas, feelings and unspoken communications, and uncover what is really happening between the two of you, the better placed you will be to deal with conflict, change negative and destructive patterns of relating that eat away at the fabric of the relationship, and bring those vital qualities of mutual nurture, respect and genuine love into play.
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    The past is not dead. In fact, it’s not even past.

    William Faulkner
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    The past is not dead. In fact, it’s not even past.

    William Faulkner
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    caring, understanding, respect, devotion, validation, reassurance
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    Why We Love by Helen Fisher (Holt McDougal, 2005)
    By the celebrated author of Anatomy of Love, this is an equally compelling volume analysing the biological, chemical and anthropological underpinnings for the phenomenon we know as romantic love.
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    The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm (Thorsons, 1995)
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